St. Patrick’s Day Speaker Jam
October 3rd, 2025
6:30PM-9:30PM
Activity
If you like the color green, and eat Lucky Charms cereal in the morning, come out and help us celebrate recovery and life! See if you can find the rainbow and the pot of gold at the end, but watch out for the leprechaun.
David M
+1 (973) 201-0298
39 Kirkpatrick Street New Brunswick,NJ 08901 United States
Bergen Activities
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Netflix & Chill
October 25th, 2025
6:30PM-9:30PM
Activity
If you like movies and shows and you like chilling. Come do that with us clean. Bring your snuggle on and your favorite pill. Maybe even your hubby or wifey too, as long as they aint a newcomer.
Allanah K
+1 (973) 979-2512
271 Lafayette Avenue Hawthorne,NJ 07506 United States
Northwest New Jersey Activities
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Sip & Paint
October 17th, 2025
2:00PM-5:00PM
Activity
Sip and paint on this lovely day with us as long as you ain't sipping what we think you sipping. If you're a Claude Monet come and show us how its done and teach us a thing or two.
Renay W
+1 (908) 666-3793
829 Salem Road Union,NJ 07083 United States
Northeast New Jersey Activities
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Chili Cook Off
October 23rd, 2025
6:00PM-9:00PM
Activity
Come to chili cook off if you really like chili obviously. We will be barbecuing up some nice steaks and hot dogs while reciting the steps. There will be a bunch of fun games too. Come connect with the fellowship and lets have a good time!
Nabil B
+1 (862) 485-4003
48 West High Street Somerville,NJ 08876 United States
Ocean Area Activities
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The Fourth Step - fearing our feelings
September 25th
"We may fear that being in touch with our feelings will trigger an overwhelming chain reaction of pain and panic."
Basic Text, p.30
A common complaint about the Fourth Step is that it makes us painfully conscious of our defects of character. We may be tempted to falter in our program of recovery. Through surrender and acceptance, we can find the resources we need to keep working the steps.

It's not the awareness of our defects that causes the most agony-it's the defects themselves. When we were using, all we felt was the drugs; we could ignore the suffering our defects were causing us. Now that the drugs are gone, we feel that pain. Refusing to acknowledge the source of our anguish doesn't make it go away; denial protects the pain and makes it stronger. The Twelve Steps help us deal with the misery caused by our defects by dealing directly with the defects themselves.

If we hurt from the pain of our defects, we can remind ourselves of the nightmare of addiction, a nightmare from which we've now awakened. We can recall the hope for release the Second Step gave us. We can again turn our will and our lives over, through the Third Step, to the care of the God of our understanding. Our Higher Power cares for us by giving us the help we need to work the rest of the Twelve Steps. We don't have to fear our feelings. Just for today, we can continue in our recovery.
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Honesty and Self-Awareness
September 25th
Honesty is the antidote to our diseased thinking.
—Basic Text, Chapter 9: Just for Today—Living the Program
Looking back at our using days, it's easy to see how our outlook on life morphed to accommodate and justify our choices. Self-delusion had become second nature. It takes effort and practice to embrace honesty instead.

Even before we got clean, there were clues that honesty might have helped to counter our distorted thinking. At some point in our using, many of us experienced a "moment of clarity"—although we probably didn't have those words to describe it. Instead of the usual lies we told ourselves, we encountered a sudden wave of understanding in which we realized some essential truths about our lives. The veil of denial lifted, if only for a moment, to give us an undistorted view of ourselves and the mess we'd made. It wasn't pretty. That brief encounter with reality stuck with us and wore us down until we were ready to try something new.

Eventually, we make it to the rooms and identify ourselves as newcomers. We give our real name, take a breath, and add: "I am an addict." This admission transforms a tired old excuse into an affirmation and positions us for the first of the Twelve Steps. With the Steps as our guide, we honestly confront the wreckage of our past and establish practices that help us maintain our connection to reality.

Recovery is a collective practice, and community is essential to learning about honesty. Real friends support our efforts to be true to ourselves, to choose actions that align with our aspirations, and to help us spot when we're in trouble. "I surround myself with people who aren't satisfied when I tell them I'm fine, when they know better. In public, they let that slide—they give me the side-eye and say 'really.' In private, they ask questions that challenge me to get honest, like 'What are you afraid of?' and 'Where would you be without that defect?'" Our delusions crumble under such scrutiny. Resisting well-rehearsed, unhealthy patterns takes this kind of support and a whole lot of courage. Honesty frees us from diseased thinking each time we choose to voice our concerns instead of censoring ourselves, reveal our insecurities instead of acting like a know-it-all, or practice some humility instead of thinking we're too good or not good enough.
—Basic Text, Chapter 9: Just for Today—Living the Program
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